The son of the female neighbor is 6 years old this year, but she is completely unkind with her. It is like an enemy. The two will fight if they don’t move, or even fall, and she often cries in anger. From birth until now, the child has always been helped by the elderly, and she and her husband are busy at work. We all know that the time spent on the road to work in Beijing is at least 3 hours a day. Every time I get home, I am almost at eight o’clock in the evening. I am tired and I have to prepare dinner. After eating and washing, I am not tired early. Adult
The son of the female neighbor is 6 years old this year, but she is completely unkind with her. It is like an enemy. The two will fight if they don’t move, or even fall, and she is often crying with anger.
From birth until now, the child has always been helped by the elderly, and she and her husband are busy at work. We all know that the time spent on the road to work in Beijing is at least 3 hours a day. Every time I get home, I am almost at eight o’clock in the evening. I am tired and I have to prepare dinner. After eating and washing, I am not tired early. Adult-like.
Therefore, she has little communication with her children and occasionally works overtime on Saturdays and Sundays, that is to say, she has been absent during the child’s growth.
She told me, what do I eat when I watch children at home? She and her husband are AA financially. She does not go to work which means self-cutting rations, and she does not dare to take risks.
Some time ago, her in-laws returned to her hometown completely. Due to the epidemic, their unit supported working from home. Because of this, she stayed with her children every day, and the contradictions continued to escalate. Even her husband began to be full of opinions about her, criticizing her for failing to take care of her children and getting rid of waste.
She said she was better off dead, wanted to divorce, never gave birth to a second child, did not want to see her son in a year, said that her son is simply her enemy.
She also said that she had a bad image and did not want to see anyone, but wanted to hide from the world in a small black room.
In fact, my situation is similar to hers, but my work at that time was relatively easy. I would stay with Dabao for two hours every day after get off work, and serve almost all day on weekends. When Dabao was in the first grade, his in-laws also returned to their hometown. I quit my job and took the baby full-time at home. Only then did I really come into close contact with my children.
Since Erbao was just born, I put more energy into Erbao, and Dabao asked me sadly:”Mom, why do you and my husband only love my brother?” I listened and froze.
Dabao said this with a smile, but it was like a thorn stuck in my chest.
It’s natural for me to hold Erbao, but it’s embarrassing to hug Dabao. I realized for the first time that the child originally brought by someone would really feel strange to myself.
Many times, after I kissed Erbao, Dabao put his face together, and he longed for his mother’s kiss. Every time I kiss his little face, he smiles contentedly, showing a very happy look.
At first hug Dabao and kiss his cheeks, there will be a sense of strangeness, but as time goes by, we hug will look natural, he is my child, I am his mother, we are mother and son, deserve Drowning, mother must give the child, otherwise he will be disappointed.
Therefore, Dabao started to be coquettish in front of me, and would chat with me, show his favorite toys, and explain his elaborate Lego. Now we are like friends, he will share his unhappy and happy things with me.
He is very kind and sensible, knowing my hard work, and will help me bring the second treasure. You see, the parent-child relationship needs to be maintained, not born from the beginning.
I hope my friends can alleviate the conflict with their son as soon as possible, and realize the beautiful picture of filial piety of mother and son as soon as possible.