In a good marriage, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should be reconciled by men. Men are very important.
In fact, even now, although we have entered a civilized society, conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the family are still inevitable, especially in rural areas. Almost every family has different conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. As long as they get married, there will be conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. There are a lot of trivialities between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Perhaps in everyone’s opinion, there are not so many bad mother-in-laws in the world. In some problems, many of them are caused by daughter-in-law’s problems. Indeed, both situations exist.
Respect for parents and elders is our traditional Chinese virtue , But filial piety must pay attention to methods, filial piety does not depend on the parents for everything, regardless of right or wrong. It is foolish filial piety. Don’t always look at problems with traditional concepts. Your thinking should continue to improve, in any relationship. Zhongdu should stand on the reasonable side, and don’t be tolerant just because the other party is an elder.
In a good marriage, mother-in-law should Decently quit, your own small family should not be put together with everyone. When a man can take good care of his own small family and take good care of his wife, he can take care of everyone further and change. Good respect for parents.
Now many families have only one child, many Young people are only children. They live with their parents after they get married. Many men complain that their daughter-in-law and their mother are always in a bad relationship. They always have different opinions on many small matters. No one is always showing weakness.
In fact, this kind of relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the best A good way, but many people will say: “I am the only child in the family and cannot be separated from my parents. I need my parents, and my parents also need me. We should live together.” I have to say, this kind of thinking. It is destined that there will be conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in this family. In this idea, the man is on the side of the parents, so the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the family cannot be dealt with.
This kind of thinking of men is to divide themselves When he arrived at his parents’ family, he divided his wives into outsiders, so he would require his wife to have a good relationship with his parents, otherwise it would be the wife’s fault. He would directly count the conflicts between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law on his wife. When I meet such a man, I can really get divorced as soon as possible.
In a good marriage, men You should consider the problem from the perspective of your own wife, learn to maintain your own small family, and the person you live with for the rest of your life is your own wife, not your parents. Getting married means setting up a family of your own. If you are in this family Still thinking about protecting your parents, what is the point of getting married? Is it just to complete a task that should be completed at this age?
After you get married, your mother should Exit your life appropriately and not participate in the new family you formed. In this new family, you have to maintain your wife and keep your family on the right track. Of course, you should honor your parents, but this is not your total. The reason to listen to your parents is that as an adult, as the pillar of a family, you have to learn to distinguish between right and wrong by yourself, stand on the side of justice, and reconcile your family relationship, instead of making your own. Family relations are getting more and more rigid.
As a man, you are Very important role, sometimes because of one of your positions affect the happiness of the family.