2021-04-16

Marriage counseling, rectification of the bride price, prevention of marriage troubles… What is the reform of marriage customs?

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China News Service Client, Beijing, April 17th (Peng Ningling) We are in the same boat, we are in the same boat, responsibility, respect and love… What kind of marriage is in your mind?

Recently, the Ministry of Civil Affairs announced that it agreed to confirm 15 areas as experimental areas for the reform of marriage customs in the country. What is the reform of marriage customs? Is it necessary?

Marriage counseling, rectification of the bride price, prevention of marriage troubles… What is the reform of marriage customs?

The picture shows the marriage registration authority Register the marriage for the new couple. Photo courtesy of Chongqing Civil Affairs Bureau

The Ministry of Civil Affairs has confirmed that 15 places are experimental areas for the reform of marriage customs

Recently, the Ministry of Civil Affairs released a message, after local declarations, field investigations, comprehensive evaluations and other work links, Hejian City, Hebei Province, Qingshan District, Baotou City, Inner Mongolia Autonomous Region, Jining District, Wulanchabu City, Huanggu District, Shenyang City, Liaoning Province, Yongji County, Jilin Province, Nangang District, Harbin City, Heilongjiang Province, and Jianye District, Nanjing City, Jiangsu Province , Dongtai City, Yuwangtai District, Ningling County, Kaifeng City, Henan Province, Li County, Hunan Province, Guangzhou City, Guangdong Province, Dazu District, Chongqing City, Wuhou District, Chengdu City, Sichuan Province, and Jintai District, Baoji City, Shaanxi Province, etc. It is an experimental zone for the reform of marriage customs in the country, and the experiment will last for 3 years.

The Ministry of Civil Affairs requires that the above-mentioned experimental areas should focus on the theme of the trial reform of marriage customs, vigorously promote the transformation of customs in the field of marriage, curb unhealthy marriage customs, and provide a fresh model for promoting the reform of marriage customs.

This is not the first time that the Ministry of Civil Affairs has proposed reforms in marriage customs. As early as May last year, the Ministry of Civil Affairs issued the “Guiding Opinions on the Pilot Reform of Marriage Customs”. The opinions pointed out that it is necessary to carry out in-depth marriage and family counseling services to promote marriage happiness and family harmony, and to develop gifts for high prices, extravagance, waste, and vulgarity. We will rectify unhealthy practices such as marriage troubles and courtesy comparisons, and establish and improve long-term mechanisms to help alleviate poverty and promote the improvement of social climate.

Since then, Sichuan, Inner Mongolia, Henan and many other places have also put forward requirements for the reform of marriage customs.

In February of this year, the Sichuan Provincial Department of Civil Affairs issued the “Key Points of Work for the Department of Civil Affairs in 2021”, referring to the orderly implementation of pilot marriage customs reforms and vigorously advocating the change of customs and new celebrations.

Inner Mongolia proposed to continue to carry out the trial work of marriage custom reform, summarize and promote the theoretical innovation, practical innovation and system innovation of the marriage custom reform in Baotou Qingshan District, Ulanchabu Jining District, and Chifeng Hongshan District.

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Last September, Civil Affairs The Ministry and the All-China Women’s Federation issued the “Guiding Opinions on Strengthening Marriage and Family Counseling and Education in the New Era.” The opinions emphasized that exploring the development of pre-marriage counseling, exploring the introduction of certificate awarding ceremonies into the marriage registration process and realizing the normalization of certificate awarding, organizing collective weddings, and advocating a healthy, civilized, simple and moderate marriage culture.

Combined with the “Guiding Opinions on the Pilot Work of Marriage Customs Reform” issued by the Ministry of Civil Affairs and the specific implementation situation in various regions, the reform of marriage customs mainly focuses on marriage counseling to make marriage preparations more adequate and establish a certification system. Make the wedding more ritual, combat the high-priced beauties, vulgar marriages and other customs, and make the essence of marriage simpler in several aspects.

For example, in terms of marriage counseling, Chengdu Wuhou District has introduced social workers, psychological counselors, lawyers, marriage and family counselors and other qualified personnel to serve as marriage and family counselors to provide marriage counselors for marriage parties. consultation service.

In 2020, Jiaxiang County, Jining City, Shandong Province will be identified as a pilot for marriage customs reform by the Jining Civil Affairs Bureau. Marriage and family counseling and education pre-sessions will also be set up for newlyweds. Township (street) marriage and family counseling stations will be synchronized Introduce a pre-divorce persuasion mechanism to provide free divorce persuasion services for marriage parties.

“Guangzhou Marriage Registration provides in-depth marriage and family counselling services through mechanism innovation and the purchase of professional agency services.” Recently, the relevant person in charge of the Guangzhou Civil Affairs Bureau introduced that in recent years, Guangzhou has also actively innovated marriage services , To create the most beautiful marriage registration hall, provide the best marriage registration services, and continue to hold group weddings.

In order to enhance the sense of wedding ceremony, Sichuan and other places have launched innovative marriage registration center designs and inviting celebrities to issue certificates to newcomers.

For example, Chengdu is advancing the construction of a park-style marriage registration center and setting up innovative pilot sites in parks and other places.

Shandong Jiaxiang County also uses “520”, Chinese Valentine’s Day, September 9th, Double Ten and other special days to hold single youth blind dates, collective certificate ceremonies, collective weddings and other activities, inviting women’s federations, justice, etc. Leaders and celebrities from all walks of life issue marriage certificates to the newlyweds.

In terms of curbing marriage troubles, high-priced gifts, and extravagance, some places have clearly written restrictions.

Jining District, Ulan Qab City, Inner Mongolia, writes marriage customs civilization into the “Village Rules and Folk Agreement” and “Resident Convention”, advocating rural weddings to be organized by the “Red and White Council”, and no more than 8 vehicles for welcoming relatives , Punishment will be imposed on wedding team violations such as illegal modification of wedding cars and running red lights.

Recently, Ningling County, Shangqiu City, Henan Province has also included marriage and funeral customs regulations in the village rules and folk agreements, advocating that the bride price is no more than 30,000 yuan, and the red affair is no more than 350 yuan per table.

In addition, some regions in Jiangsu and Inner Mongolia also require the signing of a letter of commitment related to “resisting vulgar marriages.” In Shen County, Shandong Province, Dali, Yunnan and other places, punishment measures have been specified for vulgar marriages.

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Marriage customs reform, who are the netizens Different opinions?

After the Marriage Reform Experimental Zone attracted attention, netizens had different opinions. Some people think that marriage is a private matter and the government should not interfere too much. Some people think that the sky-high price of gifts and vulgar marriages affect the social atmosphere, and it is meaningful to rectify.

In recent years, from furniture to cars, houses, and tickets, the custom of betrothal gifts has become “rules.” The ever-increasing high-priced gifts have become an obstacle for some young people to enter their marriages. Earlier, some banks even introduced “beauty gifts”. Loan”, refreshing people’s perception. For vulgar marriages that have no bottom line, they can ruin the wedding atmosphere, or hurt their nerves and go to the hospital, which is even more hateful.

This year, the Central Government’s No. 1 document once again mentioned that “increase the control of bad practices such as high-priced gifts, comparison of favors, thick burial and thin support, extravagance and waste, and feudal superstition”.

“The’custom’ of marriage customs refers to traditional customs, public order and good customs, without the slightest vulgar or vulgar meaning.” Wang Conghu, a professor at the National Institute of Development and Strategy and School of Public Administration, Renmin University of China, told the media that romance , Harmonious and civilized wedding customs can not only enhance the feelings between the bride and groom, children’s relatives and even relatives and friends, but also play a role in “lubricant” to social harmony to a certain extent.

“Marriage customs cannot be completely denied, but they must be restricted. Changing customs is not a matter of a half-time. To a certain extent, marriage customs are also exchanged between relatives, friends, colleagues, and neighbors. There is no one-size-fits-all approach.” Wang Conghu said, “If there is a policy or regulation that can eliminate it, I don’t think it is realistic. The effective way is to restrict it.”

In recent years, the marriage rate has been increasing. Decline, the divorce rate will remain high, and some inexplicable fear of marriage exists among young people.

When marriage and love become a hundred-dollar bills, when the wedding banquet becomes a show of ostentation and extravagance, when the wedding becomes a farce of tying up the groom and hugging the bridesmaids… young people’s marriage events How can we return to the true connotation of “love” and “responsibility”? (End)