2021-10-13

The adoption of 12 sick abandoned infants in this family is not necessarily related by blood

By yqqlm yqqlm

Nine kilometers north from here, you will reach the boundary of Beijing

he is a doctor in the village and believes in “human life is vital”. A newborn was left out all night in this weather. He knew what it meant

he couldn’t see anyone in the fog, so he had to pedal desperately while shouting: “let me give way, I want to save the child!”

in the next 14 years, 11 abandoned infants with varying degrees of defects came to their homes, many of them were sent by police stations or civil affairs institutions

almost every child who comes to this family has to undergo 2-3 operations. During the period of seeing a doctor outside, sometimes the family spend the night in the park next to the hospital

“as long as I dare to come, I’ll call the police immediately. Do they know that abandoning children is a crime?”

at the age of 22, there is no “life experience” among the things perplexing the child. What really makes him unforgettable is his “defects”

in this family, family affection is not necessarily related to blood

in their family, “adoption” is still a taboo word. All the past events were sealed in four layers of plastic bags, where there were hundreds of photos

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The adoption of 12 sick abandoned infants in this family is not necessarily related by blood

Shen Min and Li Fengyue are in their yard

in recent years, Li Fengyue often thinks of that foggy morning. At the age of 68, she has been busy for most of her life. She is no longer flexible when working on the ground, and she is more likely to fall into memory than ever before

the day that repeatedly appeared in my memory was in late autumn. The wheat in the field had just emerged, and there was still some smell of burning corn straw in the air. In Gongcun Town, Gu’an County, Hebei Province, the village was always shrouded in fog at this time of the year, but the fog was surprisingly heavy that day and didn’t disperse until 1 p.m

at that time, the night was long. When her daughter in junior high school went out at 6 a.m., the sky was slightly bright. She got up and looked out of the window. She saw a piece of gray. The road disappeared. The sound of sanitation workers sweeping the floor was in front of the house, but there was no figure. At night, the two-year-old son made trouble several times. After her daughter went out, she lay down and fell asleep again

I don’t know how long later, she was awakened by a knock on the door. After sitting up on the Kang, she saw her daughter pushing her bike into the house, looking nervous

“forgot to bring your textbook?” Li Fengyue asked

“there is a child by the road in the village.” the daughter replied with her head down, afraid to look at her mother and brother

“it’s a small gape (cleft lip and palate),” the daughter added

Li Fengyue was stunned and repeatedly confirmed that what her daughter saw was a child, or a human life, rather than other strange objects on her way to school. From her daughter’s mouth, she roughly learned that it was a newborn abandoned by the roadside. Because it was found at dawn, the baby may have been frozen outside all night

many years later, Li Fengyue still had difficulty explaining her decision at that time. She hardly hesitated, but instinctively felt that she could not know that there was a dying life there, but did nothing. Or maybe because he just became a mother again, he has empathy for newborns

“bring him back quickly.” she looked at her husband Shen Min and waited for his response

Shen Min heard his wife’s determination. He is a doctor in the village and believes in “human life is vital”. A newborn was left out all night in this weather. He knew what it meant

he quickly put on his clothes. The light in the room was dim and only one sock was found. Not caring so much, he stepped on the tricycle and pedaled in the direction his daughter pointed out

in the heavy fog, he couldn’t see anyone, so he had to pedal desperately while shouting: “give way, I want to save the child!” in the early morning, the streets of the small town were quiet as usual, there were few pedestrians, and only a few breakfast shops opened their doors. In the plain rural life, no one remembers Shen Min’s cry that morning. Even the seemingly unusual fog has been ignored, which is not enough to squeeze into people’s memory

but every detail of that day was engraved in Shen Min’s mind. After arriving at that place, the daughter who started first by bike had picked up the child. He saw that the baby always closed his eyes because of the high humidity, “the small quilt can wring out water”. He took the child home and found that everything below the navel was black and purple. The couple filled the infusion bottle with warm water all morning. The child didn’t open his eyes until the next day. They named their child “Beibei”, which is the nickname of “baby”

it was October 31, 1998, and later became Beibei’s birthday, although they all knew that it was probably not his real date of birth. Shen Min and his wife did not expect that they only wanted to save the child’s life, but the fate of the whole family also changed

in the next 14 years, 11 abandoned infants with different degrees of defects came to their homes, many of them were sent by police stations or civil affairs institutions. Except that three of them died prematurely due to ineffective treatment of congenital diseases and the other two were sent to welfare homes due to special or major diseases, the remaining seven children were raised by Shen Min and his wife

these “picked up” children survived to understand the world and influence others, but did not completely become an object discarded at will. Their arrival also changed the original life of the family and created another completely different family form

The adoption of 12 sick abandoned infants in this family is not necessarily related by blood(1)

Li Fengyue once used a wood stove and iron pot for cooking for her family

the news that Lao Shen’s family found a boy spread quickly in the village. The next day someone came to see Beibei. This is in line with the expectations of Shen Min and his wife. If a good family is willing to adopt, it is also a good destination for abandoned babies

a woman walked into the door, explained her intention and told Li Fengyue that she had always wanted a boy. After greeting, she took Beibei, opened the quilt and picked it up to “look left and right”. This makes Li Fengyue a little unhappy. Although it is natural to check the child, Beibei has just recovered from freezing, “if it really hurts the child, how can she be so careless”

Beibei’s cleft lip and palate obviously made the woman hesitate. After checking for “almost an hour”, she suddenly held Beibei’s feet and picked him up upside down

“only in this way can we see where Huo is.” the woman put her face to Beibei’s small head, then turned back and said to Li Fengyue with a smile

Li Fengyue couldn’t help it completely and brought the child back. She couldn’t bear to see the other party choose children like choosing goods

“she cares so much about her child’s defects. Will she lose patience with her child after adoption, and will she give him up and abuse him?” Li Fengyue talked about her worry at that time in her yard

in the next ten years, she met many parents with different accents who came to adopt children in this yard. In Hebei and Shandong, some people have white hair and think they must have a son. Others told Li Fengyue that as long as they can take the child away, “they can pay as much as they want”

just as she refused to take Beibei away for the first time, all these people were declined by her. She admitted that some people looked sincere and had better conditions than her family, but she couldn’t relax and couldn’t persuade herself to nod. “If I were a good child, I would be more relaxed, but my children are sometimes annoying, not to mention that they are neither natural nor ordinary children.”

Beibei finally became the fourth child of Shen Min’s family. At the police station, after the couple wrote a guarantee that they would not abuse their children in the future, Beibei had his own name and household registration page – a sign of his social identity

in the year of the Yuanbao incident in Kaifeng, Henan, almost every day, civil affairs staff came to her yard to see if the children were abused. Later, she and Shen Min visited the welfare home, and then gave up the idea of sending the child, “there is no feeling of home.”

sometimes Li Fengyue is confused about whether her many decisions will kill another possibility of children’s life. But after returning to real life, she was soon relieved

besides cleft lip and palate, Beibei also suffers from megacolon, and her intelligence is not as good as that of ordinary people. “She is the most worrying one”. At first, he could only eat liquid food. In addition to cooking for him alone, Shen Min and his wife had to wash his intestines the next day. Later, after six operations, Beibei could live a normal life

almost every child who comes to this family has to undergo 2-3 operations. So that from the year when Beibei came home to the last child’s entrance in winter 2012, Shen Min and his wife took their children to Beijing, Tianjin and other cities for surgery every year

villagers who come to Shenmin clinic for treatment often see the clinic closed for several days. They all understand that Lao Shen went to see a doctor for his child again

at the most tense time, three children had cleft lip and palate surgery at the same time, and once two children had surgery in different hospitals on the same day. If the couple can’t take care of them, they always bring their daughter to help. Although many operations are charity projects, raising more than a dozen children still requires a lot of expenses. During the period of going out to see a doctor, sometimes the family spends the night in the park next to the hospital

in 2002, four children came to Shen Min’s family. Tao Zi was one of them. He suffered from abdominal muscle deficiency syndrome. He was picked up from the police station at 10 a.m. and the couple took him to Beijing Children’s Hospital at 11 a.m