2022-06-23

I am an American. I have been in China for 7 years. I married a man from Hebei and gave birth to a mixed race son. I also want to become a Chinese citizen

By yqqlm yqqlm

Hello, my name is anbo’er. I am 33 years old and have been in China for 7 years. Although I am an American, I like Chinese history very much. For this reason, I came to China regardless of my parents’ opposition. Until now, I still appreciate my original choice. Now I have a loving husband, a lovely mixed race baby boy, and I have also lived the Chinese life I once yearned for. I am very satisfied with this.

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My selfie

I was born in New York, the United States. My father is the management of a hotel. My mother is a salesman of a company. In addition to my parents, I have a 3-year-old younger sister and a 6-year-old younger brother. At that time, our family conditions were good.

ten thousand and eighty-seven

New York

In fact, our three siblings are of Chinese descent, which dates back to the time when my grandfather’s grandfather was still alive. My grandfather’s grandfather once married a Chinese woman. For this reason, since my mother married my father, my family began to have some Chinese habits.

In my childhood, the most profound memory is that my mother taught our children to use chopsticks. Although I was slow to learn, I thought it was very interesting. This should be the first thing I came into contact with China, which my mother brought to me.

ten thousand and eighty-eight

tableware

I started kindergarten at the age of 5. Most of the kindergarten children are extroverted, but I am just the opposite. Therefore, no children came to play with me, and my childhood was lonely.

This state was maintained until I was 14 years old. At that time, I was in the third year of junior high school. I found something I was interested in, and I was happy for it. With its company, I was no longer lonely.

So what makes me no longer lonely? It is Chinese history. I remember very clearly that a history teacher came to the class at that time. He especially liked to talk about Chinese history, which was spoken by all dynasties. Through his talk, I saw a country with a long history. At this time, I began to look forward to everything in China.

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Scene reproduction teacher’s lecture

So I begged my parents to buy me a lot of books about Chinese history. Since then, I have read books at home in addition to taking classes at school. The more you see, the more you know, the more interesting you feel about Chinese history.

At this time, I have a dream, that is to go to China and see it with my own eyes.So I have a plan to learn Chinese. When I was 17 years old, my parents downloaded a paid software for learning Chinese on my computer.

After that, when I have free time, I will learn Chinese on it. However, the effect of self-study is not very good, because no one can help me correct my pronunciation. So I begged my parents to help me sign up for a tutoring class for learning Chinese outside school.

ten thousand and ninety

China

Four months later, my Chinese level can reach the level of daily communication. At the same time,我想要去China的愿望也越发强烈了。

In 2008, the economic crisis broke out in the United States, many companies went bankrupt and many people lost their jobs. Therefore, many families were in financial distress, and our family was no exception.

I should have gone to college, but my family can no longer support my three children to study together. As the eldest daughter, I chose to suspend my schooling. At that time, I wanted to help my family through the difficulties before going to college.

ten thousand and ninety-one

Scene reappearance non self

After that, I worked in a shop selling second-hand goods to make money. I am very tired. In addition to working, I have to take time to study. Sometimes, I am also very confused. I don’t know when this situation will end.

最让我难过的是,自己想去China的梦也变得遥不可及了,但让我没想到的是,这个梦想会在两年后的某一天实现了。

One day in 2010, my neighbor’s brother came to me and said:“我知道你一直想去China,现在有个机会,你要不要去,我也会去的。”

To tell the truth, I was really happy. Obviously, I didn’t hope. As a result, I turned around and gave me such a big surprise. Therefore, I nodded my head without hesitation.

邻居哥哥在准备出发前的事宜,我则是期待前往China的日子的到来,一想到,马上要去China,亲眼看到那些书本里的China建筑,我就激动的睡不着觉。

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Beijing

2010年6月,我和邻居哥哥一起坐上了前往China的飞机,我们的目的地是Beijing。一路上,我兴奋地看着窗外,也没合眼睡过觉。

十几个小时过去了,当我真的站在China土地上的那一刻,却有些不可置信,我反问自己,自己这么多年的梦想终于实现了吗?还是邻居哥哥拍了拍我的肩膀,我才确信,眼前的一切都是真的。

ten thousand and ninety-three

I was then

After that, I went to a boarding family I had contacted before, and my brother went to another family. This is the first time to live in someone else’s house. I was still a little timid. However, when I got there, all the tension and fear disappeared. Because they are so nice.

寄宿家庭的成员是一对会讲英文的年轻小夫妻,还有一个一岁左右的男孩。他们对我的到来,表示了热烈的欢迎。这是我第一次来China,也是第一次感受到China人的热情。

ten thousand and ninety-four

Beijing的广场 情景再现

That night, when they saw that I was still energetic, they took me to a square. This was a scene I had never seen before. There were many people dancing with the music in the square. No matter the young or the old, their faces were smiling。 At this moment, I felt a different kind of happiness. I finally understood what kind of life I wanted.

与其他外国人不同的是,我很快适应了China的生活,尤其是饮食,我真的太喜欢China美食了,无论是Kung Pao Chicken, fried chicken, orFried lotus root我觉得我和China有一种冥冥注定的缘分。

ten thousand and ninety-five

Fried lotus root

知道我喜欢吃China的美食,女主人有时间就会给我做,我真的很感激他们。他们夫妻两都是非常和善的人。

Of course, they are also very affectionate. Every night when they have time, the host often sings to his wife. He sings a lot, but what impresses me is a love song《Look at the girl across the street》。

ten thousand and ninety-six

Music score

当时,听到这首China歌曲的时候,我觉得它的旋律很美妙。所以就询问了歌名,知道后,我就开始在网上学着唱,这是我学会的第一首China歌曲,我想,如果有一天,一个China男孩为我唱这首歌,我一定嫁给他。

Later, because the host and hostess of the host family had to go to work, they asked the host’s parents to accompany me. Every weekend, we would go out to play together.

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the Great Wall

在此期间,我看过the Great Wall、也去了tian’anmen square以及Beijing的其他景点,不仅如此,他们还带我去了天津河北等Beijing附近的城市。当真正地看过这些景色,就会有一种无法用语言形容的感觉,总之这是在书本上无法体会到的。我觉得这就是独属于China的美吧!

This is my favorite life, but the happy time is always short. After a year, I will return to China。 Although I didn’t give up, I left. But the moment I got on the plane, I swore in my heart:总有一天,我还会来China,因为我已经爱上了这里。

In 2011, I went to college andVerton Montgomery Community CollegeI studied preschool education, but after a year and a half, I changed schools and went toNew York州立大学, learnedChild psychologyMajor, because I took classes online, I also found three part-time jobs during this period.

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New York州立大学

2015年我大学毕业了,此时我做了一个决定—去ChinaMy parents don’t agree very much. They think that if a girl goes out so far, they can’t accompany me in time. But my attitude was very firm. In the end, my parents couldn’t twist me, so they had to let me go.

就在这年的12月,我带着自己攒的钱,再次来到China,Maybe it’s because I’ve been here once before. When I just got off the plane and saw everything in front of me, I felt extremely cordial.

This time I was picked up by the young couple. After living in their house for a month, I made a request to leave. They tried their best to keep me, but I didn’t think it was good to disturb them all the time, so I refused them.

ten thousand and ninety-nine

Be a tutor

However, they are really good people. Worried that I am a little girl and have no relatives to take care of, they found a house for me. After that, I found a job as an English tutor in a training institution.

这是我喜欢的工作,因为我很喜欢和孩子在一起,此后的两年,我和更多的China人打交道,在此期间,我讲的中文虽然还是带着口音,但已经进步很多了,并且我也能写中文了。这让我很开心。我也开始享受这样的生活。

但是,唯一的烦恼是父母总会催我回家,但我不愿意,我告诉他们,我很喜欢这里,我想要一直待在China,但父亲却很生气。所以,每次的电话交谈只能不欢而散。但我相信总有一天他们会理解我的,毕竟这是我的人生。

ten thousand and one hundred

I am teaching

In 2017, I changed to a better paid job and taught in a kindergarten. At this time, I was 28 years old. Seeing that girls of the same age around me had boyfriends, I began to look forward to the boy who sang love songs for me.

One day in april2017, I just got off work, dragged my tired body in bed and played with my mobile phone. I didn’t know how to get to the interface of people nearby, and then the news came the next day“Hello”。 Because I was bored, I chatted with him. Through the conversation, I learned some information about him.

他叫王昕琪,和我同龄,是河北保定人,因为家贫,母亲在很小的时候就离开了他。初中毕业后,他就去了Beijing打工,起初在一家工厂做流水线工人,后来通过学习,成为了厂里编写程序的技术员。

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Wangxinqi is working in a factory

I told him that I sympathized with his experience, but he said that everything was over and people should look forward. To tell the truth, I think he is a very strong and optimistic person. In the spirit of making friends, I talked with him more and more. I also found that he is a very interesting person. Therefore, we added wechat friends.

That night, we talked late into the night, and we also felt that it was too late to meet each other. After that, I started chatting with him every once in a while to share my daily life and hobbies. Six months later we became lovers.

In january2018, I went to my boyfriend’s hometown. My boyfriend’s family was very friendly to me, which reduced my tension. This time, we discussed the marriage.

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Wedding photo

In August, 2018, my boyfriend and I got the marriage certificate in his hometown. In October, we held a wedding. What makes me happy is that despite the long journey, my parents still came here, and为我和丈夫送上了最真挚的祝福。

结婚后,我们又回了Beijing,再次继续之前的生活。虽然白天都在工作,但是下班后,我们会一起逛逛菜市场,或者是在外面吃饭。

我和丈夫

周末的时候,他会带着我四处转转,日子虽然过得很普通,但我却喜欢这样的生活,因为这是我向往的生活,是充满烟火味的。

2020年,我怀孕了,这让我感到很开心,丈夫知道这个消息后,就开始考虑回家乡发展,正好这个时候有疫情,所以我们在这年的年底回了家。为了随时可以照顾怀孕的我,丈夫又在家附近的厂里,找了一份工作。

我们的宝宝

2021年6月3日,我们的家庭又多了一个混血男宝宝,孩子的出生,让我们多了喜悦,也多了几分责任感。

因为丈夫经常在外工作,家里只有和我儿子,所以我有了很多空闲时间。为了打发时间,也为了分享自己的生活,我又开通了自媒体账号。

我的账号

让我没想到的是,竟然有人对我分享的日常感兴趣,所以每到晚上的时候,我会和丈夫拍视频或者直播。对于大家能够喜欢我拍的视频,我感到很开心,这也让我很有成就感。

如今,我来China已经8年了,待得越久,也越发觉得自己当初留在China的选择没有错。对此我感到很庆幸。

现在我的儿子已经1岁了,我也真正融入China的乡村生活。每天早起,送走丈夫,就开始自己和儿子的生活。虽然照顾儿子占据了我生活的大部分时间,但我一点儿也不枯燥。

运动减肥

因为我每天的生活过得很充实。不仅照顾儿子,我也开始运动减肥。除此之外我还会和村子里的朋友聊天,他们有的和我同龄,有的比我大。但我真的很喜欢他们,和他们在一起,我了解到了China的更多传统文化。

当然,现在的我依然在学习的路上,虽然我的中文已经很流利了,但我觉的自己要学的依然很多。因为China的文化真的太博大了。

如今的我们

所以我喜欢China,喜欢这里的生活,喜欢这里的文化,这里就是我的另一个家乡。我也希望有朝一日能够加入China国籍。总之,我对目前的生活还是很满意的,虽然不是大富大贵,但能够快乐,能够健康我已经很知足了。

当然也有个小遗憾,就是来China这么久了,一直没能回家,虽然也和父母视频通话,但我依然思念他们。所以,希望以后有时间,可以带着儿子和丈夫回家看看父母。